Human nature as reflected in liking of people, objects and ideas

Through people/objects/ideas that we compulsively court/acquire/espouse we are perhaps trying to fulfill ’some’ deeply felt ‘unattained’ deprivations of our remote/forgotten past, the past moment when we felt deeply vulnerable; thus trying to kind of quench the visceral thirst which remains insatiable–an attempt at compensation.
We perhaps project onto them and imbue them with forbidden (by self) meanings and they thus are essentially surrogates.
The choice of people/objects/ideas is perhaps influenced by the fleeting images of the contextual imprinting moments.
But why were the deprivations felt ‘deeply’ in the first place? Perhaps because they are the deprivations of the ‘basic instincts’ of a person’s individuality– his self.